Can you get through the day without at least observing someone who you dislike?
Good God man, i know what you mean. We will always find the need to vent. There are 7 billion people here and barely a one will make a difference in your world.
Jon, I am a pacifist by nature. Believe me when I say that there are days when I wish I was not. I respect you for your ability to channel your aggression. Still, I love my sense of peace. Point being, there is a balance in the world that is just waiting for us all. Don't hate just because you can. How easy is that! Any fighter knows that the fight worth fighting is the one worth winning. Don't scream just because you can. Scream because your passion calls for it. Fight because you love, not because you hate. To fight on the side of hate makes you average and dull. Be a fighter for love and hope. That is what I ask a man of your talent and perspective.
There is good in all of us. The miracle in life, if you choose to have one, is to seek out the heart, the good, the hope that lies in waiting in all men and women. Any fool can hate. Only a God knows what it means to love and hope without condition.
Back to "Can you get through the day without at least observing someone you dislike?" ... Answer somedays...yes.
Usually I find that what annoys me or stimulates a negative reaction, is the person's behavior not the person
When I feel annoyed....That is my cue that it is time to learn something about myself. I try to separate out the person, the soul, from the behavior I am reacting to. I also reflect, as was suggested earlier in the post, on whether that behavior is something I myself exhibit....and look for any areas in which I can improve.
When we are "reacting" to any person, place or circumstance we are functioning from the solar plexus... which is below the level of the heart, the level where we can understand and embrace. The solar plexus is also several levels below the ajna center or the third eye where we can see the unity in all duality. Often in shifting vision to a higher level the reaction of annoyance just drops away....
Go to your heart or your soul and you can embrace rather than diislike. It is all a point of view. Learning to move your own point of view from lower to higher levels of consciousness changes perspective dramatically....The goal being to see all humanity as the Divine souls that they/we are.
It takes practice and a desire to change ourselves rather than a desire for others to change their ways.
When I don't sleep well, I don't like people too much. I think moods color what we see and feel.
Very True...lack of sleep, not enough vacation time, illness ...anything that interferes with a good clear body-mind-soul connection will decrease our ability to see things through our highest consciousness and "feel" Loving rather than annoyed. First thing this morning, the cat walked on my foot with it's talons outstretched....I kicked it. Not very highly evolved response but a very real response to a perceived threat. I feel the same way about being around some people when I am not rested....so far, I haven't kicked any.
I am a peaceful person. I want to get the most from bad situations. I try to use annoying people for positive change. I use annoying people to help understand myself, help maintain balance, and, hopefully, help change the world. This is not hate - but ingredients for a good life. Love is the ultimate goal. I fight to find as much love as possible. Annoying people simply become powerful fuel. The below writing was taken from my journal.
"Terry's birthday inscription big surprise! Reading it brings happy memories. Can see Terry laughing about uptight English woman. Thousand times, we laughed about ignorant Yalies. Tonight's woman ranks below all of them. Look forward to telling Rebecca about asshole. Two women love me. How can I complain? Now crying."
I can tell that, as a fighter, you fight for reason and love. Otherwise, why would we ever find you here. I only ask that you fight with the heart of a God and not of some ordinary soul (please don't be ordinary). Its just too easy to hate. Be the better man and, in doing so, teach your opponent to be a better man, too. Compassion should always be the weapon of choice.
Again you are right: "Compassion should always be the weapon of choice."
I fight for reason and love. I am ordinary, but possibly different. When tested - I always choose love over money, power, etc.
What are your thoughts? What are your thoughts in the context of "WHY IS IT COMMON TO DISLIKE OTHER PEOPLE?"
Because it requires effort to care and we live in an increasingly lazy climate. We choose judgment over empathy. We choose sex over love. We choose instant gratification over long-term reward. More and more we take the easy road because it is, by its nature, much too easy. And the easiest road of all is blame and spite.
A habit is a troublesome beast. If, as a society, we establish the habit of not caring, we will not be able to break it. And I suspect that habit is, by now, pretty well entrenched. So I do hope that you take your fights to a higher road. I do hope that all of us here might choose to lead by a better, stronger, more compassionate example.
Hate is the enemy and it is very proudly before us all. Don't bow before it. Give it the good fight.
I like your response Gatzby !
Our choices do have consequences. That is one reason the world has so much suffering.
I also think moods color what we see and feel. Lack of sleep changes my mood. If feeling sleepy, doubt my golden light would be so bright (see "View Slideshow").
I believe goodness exposes hate. It exposes evil that threatens our furture. The below writing was taken from my journal.
"Today, 40ish woman gave bottle of water. Quick talk about children and she said, 'Imagine raising a child in Baghdad. I can understand why they will kill. If my child died from a bomb, I'd kill those soldiers too.' Woman agreed goodness best solution. Goodness mirrors other's faults, makes evil expose itself. Arresting terrorists, instead of bombing terrorists, would greatly reduce civilian deaths. Most important, increasing goodness would reduce terrorist threat. But opposite happening. World's future, especially for children, becoming very bleak."